If You Yearn

I’ve read a few neggy comments online about Teal Swan saying she’s copying other people, but all spiritual truths are the same: fingers pointing to the moon. I personally think she’s really cool, she’s clearly on fire with her mission, and she has most definitely helped a LOT of people. I bet she doesn’t spend time trolling on amazon, for example.

Here’s a video I watched last night where she dialogues with a man about his inability to achieve what he wants, which is basically all of us. While I’m not in the same situation as him by a long chalk, yearning for what you want is certainly a common theme with me, as I’m sure it is with most of us. Watch till the end because the last sentence is very important, don’t you think?

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A Light in the Darkness

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Which is better, to reject and refuse negativity, or to explore difficult emotions?

Tears for those who yearn for liberation © 2013 Rose-Lynn Fisher

Great Healers often say you should strongly and fully reject and repel negativity, negative people, the shadow and the darkness. Modern-day psychotherapy says that it’s only by fully exploring and acknowledging the darkness inside us that we can be fully integrated human beings. What do you think?

Bhagvad Gita Narrated in English on iMusic

Well would you look at that. Instead of listening to the Bhagvad Gita on YouTube and needing to keep the screen on the whole time, now you can download it on iMusic. Fabulous.

I listen to it in the car, while I’m folding the laundry, cooking or strap-hanging on my train home. For me, the point is that I’m not closely listening, but that I know it because I’ve heard it so many times. I must have listened to this intensely amazing scripture dozens of times.

Here’s a snippet from Chapter 4:

”Chapter 4, Verse 18

One who sees inaction in action, and action in inaction, is intelligent among men, and he is in the tranecendental position, although engaged in all sorts of activities.

Chapter 4, Verse 19

One is understood to be in full knowledge whose every act is devoid of desire for sense gratification. He is said by sages to be a worker whose fruitive action is burned up by the fire of perfect knowledge.

Chapter 4, Verse 20

Abandoning all attachment to the results of his activities, ever satisfied and independant, he performs no fruitive action, although engaged in all kinds of undertakings.

Chapter 4, Verse 21

Such a man of understanding acts with mind and intelligence perfectly controlled, gives up all sense of proprietorship over his possessions and acts only for the bare necessities of life. Thus working, he is not affected by sinful reactions.

Chapter 4, Verse 22

He who is satisfied with gain which comes of its own accord, who is free from duality and does not envy, who is steady both in success and failure, is never entangled, although performing actions.

Chapter 4, Verse 23

The work of a man who is unattached to the modes of material nature and who is fully situated in transcendental knowledge merges entirely into transcendence.

Chapter 4, Verse 24

A person who is fully absorbed in Krsna consciousness is sure to attain the spiritual kingdom because of his full contribution to spiritual activities, in which the consummation is absolute and that which is offered is of the same spiritual nature.”

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When You Feel Like Giving Up

Mary El Tarot Two of Wands

Teal Swan says that yearning helps the universe because you are expanding it in your search for whatever it is you are yearning for, so you should not stop yearning. I agree. Yearning is good and natural. If it weren’t for yearning nothing would get invented and we would all wander around like herd animals or ants. The 2 of Wands in the Tarot is the card of yearning.

When it all gets too much, inevitably, here is what I suggest, and what has worked for me. It’s based on Focusing, a technique used by psychotherapists.:

1. Accept what you are feeling without trying to push the overwhelm away. Pushing emotions away does not make them go away permanently. Listen carefully and accept what your emotions are telling you. They are valid. You are valid.

2. Identify and fully experience the physical sensations that the overwhelm and sorrow is causing you. Try to name the complex array of emotions, and very precisely explain and name the exact physical sensations. Are you choking? Constructed? Fighting for breath? Do you feel punched in the stomach? Like your legs have been cut out from under you? Dirty? Name your physical and emotional sensations. Get very creative and analytical about it. Again, resist the temptation to push away or deny what you are feeling. It’s real.

3. If there is someone you can talk to, try to explain to them how you are feeling. Make sure that you say everything without being censored or talked over. Insist that they listen to it all. If there is no physical person present, call a helpline like Samaritans or Saneline. If your local numbers are all busy, call another country. You are not trivial or wasting anyone’s time. Your pain is real.

4. You do not need to:

  • Snap out of it / get over it
  • See the positive side
  • Forgive anyone
  • Be grateful – except to the person who is listening

5. You do need to:

  • Identify any thoughts or intention of self-harm, suicide, or harming others. Take yourself away from danger. If you feel like you are going to harm yourself or others, go to the police immediately.
  • Cry. Allow your emotions to express themselves. Cry into a towel or pillow if you have to minimise noise.
  • Drink water. This is a natural sedative. You gave probably lost a lot of water through tears. Going to the tap and pouring water is a good displacement activity.
  • Go outside. Get some fresh air.

6. Now say to yourself: “part of me is feeling…” do not jump right into the feeling, experience a little distance from it.

7. Listen without censoring yourself. Ask that part of yourself what it wants, what it needs. Act on it.

8. If you are silent and accepting of yourself enough, you will learn a great truth. If you don’t learn anything new about yourself, you can always try again. Believe me, it will happen again, like a very persistent telegram delivery. Act on that truth. You might hear:

  • God loves you
  • Believe in yourself
  • You are already a high achiever
  • Forgive yourself

9. Remember that forgiveness comes after healing, not the other way around.

10. Say a sincere thank you to the part of yourself that accepted to talk to you. Act on the guidance they gave you. Make friends with all the parts of yourself, Light and Shadow.

11. Try also: (other things that have worked for me in the past)

  • conscious breathing
  • healing others
  • prayer
  • perfume / incense
  • repeating: “It’s fine, I’m fine”
  • walking / exercise
  • eating
  • dedicating your experience to God / the universe

What has succeeded for you in a moment of crisis? Leave your comments below.

The Work Is The Work

Chartres Cathedral maze – Wikipedia

Nicholas Flamel was an Alchemist, he lived in Paris from 1340 to 1418. He traveled to Spain and back, which in those days was tantamount to outer space travel today, and spent 40 years making the Philosopher’s Stone, which he achieved. He used the Stone to make hospitals and hospices and orphanages. His name, Nicholas, means “Victory of the People” and Flamel means “One who Burns”.

The Alchemists used the idea of making gold as a lure for the Work. The ultimate aim for the Work is unification with God. The zensters say: “Whatever gets you on the cushion”, meaning if you do meditation as a tool to relieve your anxiety or anger, that’s good because the point is that you should build a meditation practice. The end justifies the means.

The Work is called the Work because it’s work. If you are struggling with yearning and not achieving success, you are doing the Work. This is glorious work. Mother Theresa suffered from depression for the last 4 decades of her life; that’s working. I frequently lay my head on Mary’s lap, just to rest.