When You Feel Like Giving Up

Mary El Tarot Two of Wands

Teal Swan says that yearning helps the universe because you are expanding it in your search for whatever it is you are yearning for, so you should not stop yearning. I agree. Yearning is good and natural. If it weren’t for yearning nothing would get invented and we would all wander around like herd animals or ants. The 2 of Wands in the Tarot is the card of yearning.

When it all gets too much, inevitably, here is what I suggest, and what has worked for me. It’s based on Focusing, a technique used by psychotherapists.:

1. Accept what you are feeling without trying to push the overwhelm away. Pushing emotions away does not make them go away permanently. Listen carefully and accept what your emotions are telling you. They are valid. You are valid.

2. Identify and fully experience the physical sensations that the overwhelm and sorrow is causing you. Try to name the complex array of emotions, and very precisely explain and name the exact physical sensations. Are you choking? Constructed? Fighting for breath? Do you feel punched in the stomach? Like your legs have been cut out from under you? Dirty? Name your physical and emotional sensations. Get very creative and analytical about it. Again, resist the temptation to push away or deny what you are feeling. It’s real.

3. If there is someone you can talk to, try to explain to them how you are feeling. Make sure that you say everything without being censored or talked over. Insist that they listen to it all. If there is no physical person present, call a helpline like Samaritans or Saneline. If your local numbers are all busy, call another country. You are not trivial or wasting anyone’s time. Your pain is real.

4. You do not need to:

  • Snap out of it / get over it
  • See the positive side
  • Forgive anyone
  • Be grateful – except to the person who is listening

5. You do need to:

  • Identify any thoughts or intention of self-harm, suicide, or harming others. Take yourself away from danger. If you feel like you are going to harm yourself or others, go to the police immediately.
  • Cry. Allow your emotions to express themselves. Cry into a towel or pillow if you have to minimise noise.
  • Drink water. This is a natural sedative. You gave probably lost a lot of water through tears. Going to the tap and pouring water is a good displacement activity.
  • Go outside. Get some fresh air.

6. Now say to yourself: “part of me is feeling…” do not jump right into the feeling, experience a little distance from it.

7. Listen without censoring yourself. Ask that part of yourself what it wants, what it needs. Act on it.

8. If you are silent and accepting of yourself enough, you will learn a great truth. If you don’t learn anything new about yourself, you can always try again. Believe me, it will happen again, like a very persistent telegram delivery. Act on that truth. You might hear:

  • God loves you
  • Believe in yourself
  • You are already a high achiever
  • Forgive yourself

9. Remember that forgiveness comes after healing, not the other way around.

10. Say a sincere thank you to the part of yourself that accepted to talk to you. Act on the guidance they gave you. Make friends with all the parts of yourself, Light and Shadow.

11. Try also: (other things that have worked for me in the past)

  • conscious breathing
  • healing others
  • prayer
  • perfume / incense
  • repeating: “It’s fine, I’m fine”
  • walking / exercise
  • eating
  • dedicating your experience to God / the universe

What has succeeded for you in a moment of crisis? Leave your comments below.

Beginners Tarot Course on Udemy

A friend suggested I put my Beginners’ Tarot Course on Udemy, so I’m busy doing that at the moment. The photo above is a screen shot of the video editing suite I’m using.

Udemy is an online platform for sharing and taking online courses. I’ve had a peruse at the Tarot offerings and they all seem to be “learn Tarot in an afternoon” style. Yes, but then why not take the time to really learn the Tarot properly? I think some people would prefer that, don’t you?

My course will follow nearly the same format as the Beginners’ Tarot Course I ran in January, 12 weeks of weekly content, delivered straight to your inbox. However, the Udemy course will not be free. I haven’t decided on a fee yet, but I’ll certainly make sure it’s affordable.

Now I have a shiny new MacBook, I have the iMovie editor and it’s taking a while to get used to using it, the mobile version is a lot more feature-rich and the touch-screen makes editing so much easier than with a keyboard. By contrast, Udemy’s course builder looks to be flexible and user-friendly, the interface is intuitive and I might even be able to make some money with this. Ya never know.

Marseille Old and New

Really happy to see these two Marseille decks side by side. Amazing how the old Spanish version has 3 people at the magician’s table, with a dog biting at his fleas below it. What is on that table, I wonder?

The Star Card has also changed so much. At what point did the Alchemist Mage become a nude young woman?

Thanks as always to Tokyo Tarot Meetup, this evening in Yokosuka, for the images.

Tarot Reading Peer Feedback Event

Sun and Moon Tarot deck

I’m so enjoying the Tokyo Tarot peer feedback events. If you want to get better as a Tarot reader, the absolute best way is to do readings in return for feedback. We get together once a month and as a group exchange readings for feedback. Listening to other people give readings, and getting a new take on the cards is also invaluable.

I Give You Feedback – Free Tarot Mentoring

Yes, but what does it all mean? Learn to interpret the cards and give Tarot readings that resonate.

The absolute best way to learn to read Tarot Cards is to read Tarot cards a lot, and get feedback. It’s not only what you say it’s how you say it that counts. Also you need to communicate effectively with the client, meaning be a professional and set expectations to stun.

People promise feedback in exchange for readings but sadly don’t deliver, or they don’t give effective feedback that helps you grow as a Tarot reader. It’s hard to get supportive and knowledgeable yet objective feedback in anything, let alone Tarot.

I want to stretch my wings a bit and offer mentoring. So the first 3 people who contact me and ask for mentoring will get just that, for free. The agreement is that you give feedback on my mentoring.

Use the contact form on the About page of this website for further info.

Update:

I’m also hosting a Meetup event on the 11th of March in Tokyo, with peer feedback on Tarot readings, both content and style. If you’re around then, let’s meet and exchange readings and feedback:

http://meetu.ps/e/DW3sj/bF3yn/

Another Update:

I have now selected my three victims, er, I mean volunteers. If you can’t join me in Tokyo on the 11th, and you’d like some one to one Tarot coaching, find out about this new service HERE.

 

Listen to the Bhagavad Gita in streaming audio

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HERE. Here are a few highlights:

Chapter 12, Verse 6-7.

For one who worships Me, giving up all his activities unto Me and being devoted to Me without deviation, engaged in devotional service and always meditating upon Me, who has fixed his mind upon Me, O son of Prtha, for him I am the swift deliverer from the ocean of birth and death.

Chapter 12, Verse 8.

Just fix your mind upon Me, the Supreme Personality of Godhead, and engage all your intelligence in Me. Thus you will live in Me always, without a doubt.

Chapter 12, Verse 20.

He who follows this imperishable path of devotional service and who completely engages himself with faith, making Me the supreme goal, is very, very dear to Me.

Can’t see the wood for the trees…

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“It’s all crashing in all around me, everything is just a big mess, and everyone is behaving like an eejit.”

Wouldn’t it be great to get a little clarity, some insight, a bit of perspective? Or maybe the impartial judgement of someone who knows you really well, but who doesn’t have an agenda?

This is a Tarot reading. With guidance and clarity, not to mention prediction built in, no wonder this “little deck of cards” has been around since 1420 and is going stronger than ever today. See the Tarot readings page for details.

Win a free Tarot reading

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The Magician from the Mary-El Tarot

Who said this?

“The most beautiful and most profound emotion we can experience is the sensation of the mystical. It is the power of all true science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead.”

If you can guess – no google searching now! – or if you already know, you could win yourself a free 3-card Tarot reading. Contact me via Facebook or on the About page of this site.