Third-Party Readings

To 3rd-Party read or not to 3rd-Party read? It’s when the person asks to know about someone who has not given permission to have their cards read.

Questions can include: Is my wife having an affair? Is my boss ever going to promote me? What’s he building in there?

A few years ago a woman client asked me to do a reading for a guy she had a crush on. It was in a café, and all the other people in the café knew both her and the guy involved, and everyone was listening in to the reading. Kind of tense! The guy in question wasn’t present, he was married and had a successful career as the drummer in a rock band. I told my client that she could get a reading about the relationship between her and this man, but his private life was his own business. She was obviously disappointed but short of putting a gun to my head, there was nothing much she was going to be able to do to change that.

To my amazement, the Tarot reading was all about him, his wife, his mistress, his manager, his career, his fans, they were all in there.

The Tarot showed him to be extremely stressed and unhappy, pressurised by the conflicting demands of so many people riding on the coat-tails of his career. My client sat through the reading in total silence, and at the end she said that she was going to just love him from afar, and stop stalking him like a beast.

It’s happened a few times that people have asked me to do a third-party reading, and I always say no, but you know that if the Tarot thinks you need to know about someone’s life, because that’s going to help you personally, then that’s the information you’re going to get.

To show what I mean, here’s a reading I did this morning. I asked the Tarot to help me illustrate my point with a fictitious office crush situation. The cards are from the Tarot de Jacques Viéville.

So obviously, thinking about the visual language of the Tarot, the very clear message is: “get your nose out of this person’s life. The way is closed, buster!” We see someone waving a big truncheon in our face, then the way is barred, then it’s super-double barred with an extra padlock. From a more traditional interpretation: He’s having a lot of sex and he’s partying a lot. Notice the numbers? It’s 1 – 2 – 4, multiplying the Wands exponentially. How does that help the client? It just makes them feel more left out and vulnerable than ever. However, check this:

See, now that’s better, isn’t it? A woman wrestling with her lust, looking back on past events and feeling even more left out and sorry for herself, while over on the other side the door is locked like Fort Effing Knox.

Just leave the dude alone, already, and attend to the matter at hand, which in this case is your beautiful pet lion, which has to be a metaphor for everything that’s beautiful and wild in your life. Stop pining over some guy who is ultimately going to ostracise you and leave you out in the cold.

Basically, it’s the same reading twice in a row. However, in the second reading, the message is a lot more personal and useful, don’t you think?

What do you think about 3rd-party readings? Some people say it’s tantamount to psychic spying and totally out of bounds. Others say: “Well, if I don’t get paid to do this, someone else will, so I may as well go ahead and do this thing. Who cares, anyway?” The difference is an ethical Tarot reader who feels honour and professionalism, versus someone who doesn’t care about you or the person who you’re stalking. Which person is going to give the better reading?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this controversial topic, so please comment below.

Star Spread: How do I know I have Permission?

Warning: Adult Content, y’all.

How do I know I have permission to succeed and feel fulfilled? Because of course I do have permission, I only need to get out of my own way. So in many ways the spread should be titled: “How do I get out of my own way, already?”

This spread is in Tom Benjamin’s book Tarot on Earth, which I just finished it this morning. It’s an Elemental Dignities spread, where you see how the Element of the card conflicts or complements the Element of the position. I like that. Tom also says that just because two elements clash according to conventional ED theory, it doesn’t actually mean they clash in reality, and can work together rilly well. Take Fire and Water: How you gonna get yourself in a nice hot bath if you don’t heat it up? But then I wonder if conflicting Elements are another case of “The Death Card Doesn’t Always Mean Death, Until of Course it Does”? Sigh. Here we are back at the reason I bought that book in the first place: to learn to use my intuition in a reading, instead of what I have learned empirically.

Speaking of which, let’s crack on and do this bad boy, shall we? What imma gonna do is a kind of hybrid visual language meets learned meanings. Hang on to your ovaries, it’s going to be a bumpy ride.

Card Interpretation
Spirit: Spare Card. Aha! The Tarot is in cahoots with my Higher Self and saying you can't have that information now. I kind of love it when that happens – which is why I always leave the spare cards in the deck. “Check back later friend.”
Water: Tower. Ben Says that this is actually a lot more like a phallic symbol than a nuclear explosion taking place all over your shit. As this is in the Water aspect of my spread and it's a hard-hitting Fire card I'd say it looks like some jerk just came all over my favourite black shantung blouse. If only I had a black shantung blouse. But actually you know it's about how my emotions just explode everywhere and take me back to ground zero. Looking for equanimity? It's a long way to the top if you want to rock'n'roll.
Fire: Hierophant. My passion is teaching apparently. The only thing is that I'm a Gemini so basically that whole Taurus vibe (Hierophant is Taurus) is a little s-l-o-w for me. Perhaps if I can see the long view that’s how I get to the place I want to be.
Air: Queen of Coins. I kind of despise my own materialism and wanting to succeed. My inner critic basically rules my inner roost. Just look at the way she's glaring at that Spirit position card.
Earth: 8 of Coins. OK good at least here I know I'm on the right track. Here the 8 of Coins looks like a field with flowers in it which is also a back-burner plan of mine. As this is the only card that is aligned with it's positional element and the only Pip to boot (what I feel I can do for myself) maybe this is the clue I've been waiting for.
Topics: There are a lot of Majors here. I seem to think that this situation is kind of out of my grasp and the signifier is the grasping old Queen of Coins. The only pip is the 8 of Coins and I guess that means that I know I'm on the right path.
Overall: So how DO I get out of my own way? I think I have to get over my fear of material success and align myself with a very Taurean view of the future.

Did the reading answer the question? What would you have done differently? Thoughts?

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Tarot de Jacques Vieville from Editions Sivilixi

At the moment I’m reading Tarot on Earth by Tom Benjamin because I want to expand my skills and learn to read the cards using the visual language of the Marseille deck, instead of all the card meanings I learned from books. In order to practice this skill / technique, I need some kind volunteers. So I am offering three free 3-Card readings, in exchange for feedback. This is on a first-come, first-severed basis.  Remember that I am still at a totally experimental level with this, so who knows what could happen? But as with everything Tarot-related, expect the unexpected.  Use the contact form below:

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Marseille Bleu

Will you look at this? It’s a hand painted, yes I said hand painted Tarot deck, and a hand painted Lenormand deck. The artist is 282 Tarot and she (I’m guessing she is a she) is on Facebook HERE. She has recently sent the deck off to the printers so I am on the list for snapping one up as soon as it’s back, naturally. Really cannot wait.

Marseille Old and New

Really happy to see these two Marseille decks side by side. Amazing how the old Spanish version has 3 people at the magician’s table, with a dog biting at his fleas below it. What is on that table, I wonder?

The Star Card has also changed so much. At what point did the Alchemist Mage become a nude young woman?

Thanks as always to Tokyo Tarot Meetup, this evening in Yokosuka, for the images.

Just Look at the Darn Cards, Will Ya?

Maman Miyuki’s Tarot de Marseille

Reading through Tom Benjamin’s Tarot on Earth ahead of next month’s Tokyo Tarot Book Club Event, I’m excited to begin reading what I actually see on the table (or in this case bed) instead of what I know.

In this spread, I asked about the nature of the relationship with the people I work with. So what do we actually SEE?

The significator is the central card. We see people meeting face to face and two cups. But they are separated by some ornate stem flower in a red vase – the Yoni is in the room! Below is the world surrounded by a whole botanical garden of foliage and encased in more ornamentation than a German Rococo church. The little fishy-monsters are looking at each other but showing their teeth. So this spread is about socialising, or not, and the pressures of the world underlying the urge towards potential friendships.

On the left we see a lot of cups upside down. There are upset emotions and cups that are not charged. In the centre is a little blue flower with a red centre… another Yoni, but feeling cold, it seems.

On the right is the 9 of Coins. Money or plates are on the table, and the door is open, but there is something barring the way, another something, a mirror, a world,  or a face that is separate from the rest, in the middle but enclosed in a fancy wall. At the risk of becoming tiresome, it’s a Yoni wall!  The flower buds reach out top and bottom, so there is potential for events to unfold, but even though the roots of the flowers connect, there is nothing happening yet and one person is being kept separate from the others.

So we are seeing a disconnection of people based on the tight constraints of the world. The left side (female) feels upset and that the wine is being wasted. The right side (male) feels that the central face needs to be kept apart, but it’s difficult because that person is right in the midst of everyone.

A pretty bang-on description of what is going on at work currently, I’d say. And all I did was look at the darn cards. Thanks, Tom Benjamin. This is a seriously great tool.

Tarot On Earth

I want to learn how to read the Marseille pips so I bought this book. Having a mini flip-through yesterday, hot off the postie’s moped, it looks fabulous. I’m hosting a Meetup event to discuss this book on the 29th April, in Shinagawa, Tokyo. Check HERE for further info or the Meetup image on any page of this site.