To 3rd-Party read or not to 3rd-Party read? It’s when the person asks to know about someone who has not given permission to have their cards read.
Questions can include: Is my wife having an affair? Is my boss ever going to promote me? What’s he building in there?
A few years ago a woman client asked me to do a reading for a guy she had a crush on. It was in a café, and all the other people in the café knew both her and the guy involved, and everyone was listening in to the reading. Kind of tense! The guy in question wasn’t present, he was married and had a successful career as the drummer in a rock band. I told my client that she could get a reading about the relationship between her and this man, but his private life was his own business. She was obviously disappointed but short of putting a gun to my head, there was nothing much she was going to be able to do to change that.
To my amazement, the Tarot reading was all about him, his wife, his mistress, his manager, his career, his fans, they were all in there.
The Tarot showed him to be extremely stressed and unhappy, pressurised by the conflicting demands of so many people riding on the coat-tails of his career. My client sat through the reading in total silence, and at the end she said that she was going to just love him from afar, and stop stalking him like a beast.
It’s happened a few times that people have asked me to do a third-party reading, and I always say no, but you know that if the Tarot thinks you need to know about someone’s life, because that’s going to help you personally, then that’s the information you’re going to get.
To show what I mean, here’s a reading I did this morning. I asked the Tarot to help me illustrate my point with a fictitious office crush situation. The cards are from the Tarot de Jacques Viéville.
So obviously, thinking about the visual language of the Tarot, the very clear message is: “get your nose out of this person’s life. The way is closed, buster!” We see someone waving a big truncheon in our face, then the way is barred, then it’s super-double barred with an extra padlock. From a more traditional interpretation: He’s having a lot of sex and he’s partying a lot. Notice the numbers? It’s 1 – 2 – 4, multiplying the Wands exponentially. How does that help the client? It just makes them feel more left out and vulnerable than ever. However, check this:
See, now that’s better, isn’t it? A woman wrestling with her lust, looking back on past events and feeling even more left out and sorry for herself, while over on the other side the door is locked like Fort Effing Knox.
Just leave the dude alone, already, and attend to the matter at hand, which in this case is your beautiful pet lion, which has to be a metaphor for everything that’s beautiful and wild in your life. Stop pining over some guy who is ultimately going to ostracise you and leave you out in the cold.
Basically, it’s the same reading twice in a row. However, in the second reading, the message is a lot more personal and useful, don’t you think?
What do you think about 3rd-party readings? Some people say it’s tantamount to psychic spying and totally out of bounds. Others say: “Well, if I don’t get paid to do this, someone else will, so I may as well go ahead and do this thing. Who cares, anyway?” The difference is an ethical Tarot reader who feels honour and professionalism, versus someone who doesn’t care about you or the person who you’re stalking. Which person is going to give the better reading?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this controversial topic, so please comment below.